Why anxiety tries to protect us and what happens when this protective response starts interfering with everyday life anxiety-friend-or-foe
.Anxiety is a natural protective response. This article explains how anxiety works, why it can become chronic, and what can help reduce its intensity.
Most people are used to thinking of anxiety as something bad. Something they need to get rid of as quickly as possible, suppress, or silence.
But what if I told you that anxiety is not your enemy?
It is your ancient guard, looking after your safety. The problem is that sometimes this guard confuses a real threat with an imagined one.
In this article, we will look at the different aspects of how this inner guard works.
How Anxiety Works: The Physiology of an Ancient Defense System
Our ancestors lived in a world where danger was real and immediate: predators, enemies, natural disasters. To survive, they needed an instant reaction, without time for lengthy reflection.
Nature gave them such a mechanism. It is known as the “fight or flight” response.
Here is how it works.
1. The Brain Receives a Danger Signal
The amygdala receives a signal about a possible threat.
This signal is sent to the hypothalamus, one of the brain’s main centers involved in managing the body’s stress response.
2. The Hypothalamus Starts a Chain Reaction
It sends a signal to the adrenal glands, which begin releasing adrenaline and noradrenaline into the bloodstream.
3. The Body Mobilizes
The heart begins to beat faster so that oxygen can reach the muscles more quickly.
Breathing becomes faster to supply the body with more oxygen.
The muscles tense so that the body is ready for action.
The pupils dilate to help us perceive the surroundings more clearly.
Sweating increases, helping the body regulate its temperature.
4. One of Three Strategies Is Activated
Fight — if you assess the situation as something you can cope with.
Flight — if you feel that the threat is stronger and it is safer to escape from it.
Freeze — if the body assesses the situation as one in which it is better to stop, become less noticeable, and avoid attracting attention.
But there is one problem.
The modern world is very different from the world our ancestors lived in. Most threats today are not physical but psychological.
Accumulated stress — when you work at your limit for a long time and barely allow yourself to rest.
Unresolved emotions — experiences that have not been processed gradually build up and may begin to show themselves through anxiety.
Expectations and fear — when you are afraid that you will not cope, will make a mistake, will disappoint someone, or will “fail.”
Beliefs — when you think, “The world is dangerous,” “I will not cope,” or “I need to control everything.”
Arguments and conflicts with people close to you — situations in which you feel that you are not understood, heard, or valued as a person.
A sense of impending catastrophe — thoughts about the future, fear of running out of money, or fear of loneliness.
The body reacts to these “threats” almost as if they were real physical dangers. It mobilizes, but the energy that would once have been released through action no longer has its usual outlet.
It remains inside in the form of tension, anxiety, insomnia, and muscular tightness.
What Happens When Anxiety Becomes Chronic?
When you are constantly in a state of readiness for an “attack,” your nervous system becomes overloaded. The body repeatedly activates the stress response, involving hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline.
Over time, anxiety can gradually become a constant background state.
You wake up already feeling tired.
You cannot relax even when you are in a safe environment.
You expect something bad to happen even when everything is calm.
Your body begins to “shout” through headaches, tension, digestive problems, and other physical symptoms.
At this point, it is important to understand that your anxiety is not trying to destroy you.
It is trying to protect you.
It simply does not always know how to distinguish a real threat from an imagined one.
Your task is not to fight anxiety, but to learn how to understand its message and help it calm down when there is no real danger.
Anxiety is, first and foremost, a signal.
A signal that your body and brain currently perceive something as dangerous.
When anxiety works as it should, it protects us. When it begins to operate at full intensity all the time, it starts interfering with life.
How Can You Recognize Healthy Anxiety?
Healthy anxiety:
- arises in a situation of real danger;
- helps you stay attentive and focused;
- passes or decreases significantly when the situation is resolved.
What Can You Do to Reduce Anxiety?
1. Acknowledge It
Tell yourself: “I am feeling anxious right now. That is okay. It is simply a signal.”
Acknowledging what is happening can reduce additional tension and give you more space to decide what to do next.
2. Check Reality
Ask yourself:
“Is there a real threat right now? Or are my thoughts creating frightening scenarios?”
This question helps separate what is actually happening from the anxious scenario created by the mind.
3. Breathe
Anxiety often makes our breathing shallow and rapid.
Try taking several calm breaths, gradually making the exhalation longer. This can help the nervous system shift from a state of heightened readiness toward a calmer state.
4. Return to Your Body
Feel your feet on the floor.
Feel your back against the chair.
Notice the air on your skin.
Pay attention to what is around you right now.
This helps you “ground” yourself and return from anxious thoughts to the reality of the present moment.
5. Seek Support
If anxiety becomes chronic and begins to interfere with your life, it may be a sign that coping with it alone has become difficult.
In that case, it may be useful to seek support.
When Is It Worth Seeing a Psychologist?
If anxiety lasts for more than two weeks and does not go away.
If you notice that you are no longer coping with your usual daily activities.
If anxiety is accompanied by pronounced physical symptoms.
If you feel stuck and do not understand how to get out of this state on your own.
How I Work with Anxiety
I do not simply try to “remove” anxiety.
I help you understand it.
Together, we explore which thoughts trigger it, how your body responds, and what happens to you in an anxious situation.
We learn to stay in contact with anxiety rather than remain in a constant struggle against it.
What Is the Main Point?
Anxiety is not your enemy.
It is an important signal.
And when you learn to recognize, understand, and interpret it, it gradually stops controlling you. have to cope with it alone.
Author: Yulia Nikolaenko
Psychologist working within a cognitive behavioral approach. Helps clients better understand their thoughts, feelings, and habitual reactions, develop more effective ways of coping with life difficulties, and build more conscious relationships with themselves and others.
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